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The Fairy Tale:
The Prince and the Princess are Happy Together Forever
When you look around the whole world, of course
including Hong Kong, you will discover that the divorce rate is
generally rising. It indicates that many couples find it too hard
to stay together. Everyday, in the newspaper, you can read the
news about the breakup of couples, couples becoming enemies, quarrels
and even fatal damage to each other. Fortunately, everything has
two sides. At the same time, we can also see couples with sweet
smiles and happiness, which makes us admire. The writer would
like to ask what the secrets of a good marital relationship are,
why some couples can live so happily and some whom we cannot bear
to see.
The Importance of Commitment in Marriage
You may say that the writer does not follow the
new trend, but the writer still strongly believes the importance
of commitment in marriage. The couple has committed to each other
that they will love and take care of each other in their whole
lives, no matter when they face illness, poverty and hardship.
What a pity is that just in the beginning, many think that they
cannot guarantee anything to their partners. Somehow, it is very
natural that people may change. Moreover, it is not bad for us
to have different choices. However, they in fact have not considered
that it is exactly because of too many temptations and people's
greed for freshness, couples need the commitment. Otherwise, people
are easily attracted by someone other than their partners.
If the couple does not commit to each other, they
will not make too much effort to enhance or reconcile their relationship.
On the opposite, they perhaps rush to leave and find someone else.
They do not bother to waste their time in communicating with each
other according to the communication principles, or controlling
their anger in order to solve the problem calmly. That is why
the writer in the first place emphasizes the proper attitude of
being husband and wife. Then, the couple is willing to try to
make each other happy and manage their conflicts.
The Secrets of Invincibility: Commitment &
Skills of Couple's Interaction
The principles and skills of couple's interaction
are as important as the proper attitude. For the last ten years,
the writer has studied, practised and modified the skills of maintaining
a healthy and happy marriage, finally, the writer finds out the
best ones, which are listed in the following:
- Observe & Be Considerate
You have to observe your partner. When s/he is tired or worried,
you have to be considerate and make him/her relieved. In this
way, s/he certainly feels that you are the one who understands
him/her the most in the world. The writer guarantees that your
partner will love you forever if you do not dump him/her.
- Watch, Smile &
Talk
Though we are so busy, you should spare some time to share with
your partner. Watch him/her with a sweet smile, and express
your affection towards him/her. If you do not do this, someone
will take your place naturally.
- Create & Enjoy
Common Hobbies
Have you both developed various hobbies or activities and tried
to know your partner's friends? This can make your life more
interesting. Otherwise, you cannot find a word with each other
and see each other as the most boring person in the universe.
Romance, no way!
- Accept, Appreciate
& Affiliate
Before marriage, one usually shows one's best side to the other.
After marriage, you may discover your partner's some bad habits
or weaknesses. Nevertheless, do not be frustrated. Try to accept
and dig out your partner's good side. When you accept and appreciate
him/her, s/he is more willing to improve him/herself. Otherwise,
the couple merely attack and hurt each other.
- Follow the Rules of
Managing Conflicts
Couples unavoidably may have different opinions and quarrels.
Follow the rules and make the conflicts beneficial to your marriage:
- Remember that conflicts can serve to
increase your mutual understanding
- Affection comes first and victory comes
second: bear in mind that your relationship and affection
are of foremost importance
- When your anger is rising up, watch
your mouth and do not hurt your partner's self-esteem
- Negotiate to quit the quarrel when
appropriate
- Admit your mistake and say sorry. Making
apology shows your maturity
Actualize & Happy Together
Due to the limitations of space, the writer cannot
list out all the precious experiences. However, when you actualize
the best of the skills, you can improve your marriage to an unbelievable
extent. Bless you a thousand times with a happy marriage. From
now on, the prince and the princess are happy together.
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